“When the student is ready, the teacher will appear”

The value of each moment

Imagine that on each a bank deposited an amount in your account to use as you please. Imagine that at each end of day whatever wasn’t used you lose. THATS YOUR LIFE. Each day you get the chance to use your time and be focused, to not let a cent go to waste. Your time is valuable. Daily, you get time to spend as you like, invest and use it to be a blessing to others or if you choose again, you can waste it by being disorganised, unhappy, worried, discouraged.

When we fully understand the value of our time, and use each day by taking it as a gift, it helps us to keep everything in perceptive. We realise that there are some battles that are not worth fighting.

Do not get involved in things that are not between you and your destiny. If someone has a problem with you, as long you’re being your best, doing what you believe God put in your heart, you are already way ahead to becoming successful and that is all you need to be.

You cannot please everyone in life

One of the greatest lessons I have learnt in this life is that, I do not have to resolve every conflict with people. This is true for you as well. Some people just want to be a distraction to your happiness, some people will only slow your progress and waste your precious time. You do not need to respond to every critic, wasting your time trying to make people like you that never will. Accept the fact that not everyone will accept and give you their approval for being who you choose to be. Accept the fact that you are a beautiful being, a masterpiece of God’s creation and even though not everyone will like or approve of you, all that you need to do to be happy in life is to just run your own race.

There are people that will never be happy, whatever you try to do, whoever you try to be. No matter how many favours you do, gifts you buy them, compromises you make, sooner or later they will find fault. Understand that their happiness is not your responsibility and your happiness is not their responsibility. Rise above them and learn to embrace and love who you are inspite of all the negativity and complaints about you. Do not waste your time trying to fix somebody that doesn’t want to be fixed, or trying to change something that you cannot change.

The friend that frustrates you because all she does is talk about other people, do not try to change her. Her unhappiness and insecurities are, after all, not yours. The colleague that is always talking behind your back, accept that you cannot make her like you. The boss that is always making you feel less than you actually are by not appreciating your hard work, accept that you cannot make him see you the way that you are. The husband, or wife that is always finding fault in everything that you do, you cannot make them see and treat you any differently, do not therefore waste your time trying to change their minds about who you are, you will not succeed.

The saying goes “when the student is ready, the teacher will appear”

Only until a human being is ready for change is it that they can they change, only until change is inevitable will they choose to be different. Most people wait until they have something to gain before they can change who they are, or how they react to the world “including you” so until and unless they are ready to be different, yours is to simply accept yourself as the being that you are and not seek approval from them. Besides, your responsibility is only to yourself. Use your time effectively, as best as you can. You have your own gifts and talents, your own seeds of greatness.

 

You have an assignment with a purpose to fulfil. Stop wasting time responding to every dog that barks rather learn to concentrate on enjoying the journey to your own destiny.

 

Running Your Own Race

It gets hard but we can get through it

Have you ever woken up to a day that was so slow you found you had to drag your feet out of bed, forced your steps slowly into the bathtub, the thought of putting on proper formal clothes for the meeting you have at 8.15am nearly put you into a heart attack? As you get into your car trying to rush to your meeting, your husband is screaming at you for the breakfast toast you burnt while struggling to prepare your child’s lunch box, your child “who is already late for school “is crying and trying to wiggle her way by faking sickness so that she/he doesn’t get a beating for being a late comer?

Have you ever wished that a morning wouldn’t come so that you didn’t have to make that presentation “the one at which your boss will be sitting and critiquing everything you say”, that presentation that stands to determine your future with your company?

Have you ever felt so lost and alone that you struggled to understand your reason for being alive? Have you ever loved so deeply and gotten so hurt, you simply wished that you would melt into your bed and never have to see another day?

I am sure that each one of us has at some point in our lives experienced hardships.

If like most people you have struggled to understand your being at some point in time, to appreciate why you awoke to a new day, struggled to find your purpose in life, do not despair, you are not alone and you will get through it. While these moments may scare us when they come, get us despondent and doubting of who ware, we do need to exhale and take comfort and strength in the truth that like a clock that ticks each minute, such a moment will pass and tomorrow will always bring with opportunity for you to make newer and more exciting opportunities. we must Trust in Gods perfect plan, be strengthened by the knowledge that He our Father, who knew each hair on our heads before we were formed in our mothers’ wombs, He who sanctified and set us apart knows sees and is always For us.

For you to succeed in life, for you to truly realise your true potential and attain happiness, you don’t need to be negative or defeated by these moments that come. Try first to make each day in your life count for something. Yes, things may not be perfect right now, you may not have everything your way, but you need to realise that you will never have the day back.

If you learn to take each day as a gift instead of wailing to every individual that cares to listen, if you learn to appreciate your existence at this moment in time and take each hardship as a lesson, an experience that is preparing you for your ultimate destiny “after all even the most glittery and valuable of diamonds first had to go through a process of refinery through fire”, you will learn to spend your time effectively. Realise that this is your moment; each day is your chance to either invest your time or to waste it. The choice is yours!

The Power to Choose how you feel...

It’s very easy. Everything starts with a thought. So I tell you _ you can begin to think of yourself as truly intelligent on the basis of how you choose to feel in the face of trying circumstances.

Life struggles are pretty much the same for each of us. We all feel pain, we get disappointed, we hurt and have so many problems that we now and then struggle to see our tomorrow. When you are experiencing your own hardship, you feel as if no one else has ever been through worse. You feel and are convinced that not one person can understand, no one knows. Here is the shocking simplicity - if you simply raise your eye just a little, just for a second see outside of what you are feeling, you would actually realise that your neighbour is going through even worse.

You know the saying “I used to complain I had no shoes till I saw a man who had no feet”.

Everyone who is involved with other human beings in any social context has similar difficulties. Disagreements, conflicts and compromises are a part of what it is to be human. Similarly money, growing old, sickness, death, natural disasters and accidents are all events which present problems to virtually all human beings. Yet some people are able to make it, avoid immobilizing dejection in spite of all their problems, while others simply break down and collapse. Those who recognise problems simply as part of a human condition and therefore don’t measure happiness by the absence of problems are the most intelligent kind of human we know “and yet they are quite rare”.

Mastering self will require a new kind of intelligence, a new kind of thinking, one which I recognise may prove very difficult to master as our society doesn’t encourage individualistic behaviour or breaking free from the norm. This kind of mastery will require a strong character and repetitive reactions to each situation that will ultimately build who you are. You must trust in your ability to feel emotionally whatever you choose to feel in any circumstances.

Yes, feeling is a choice as well.

Those who have studied emotional intelligence “EQ”, teach us that every reaction to an occurrence, starts with a thought, and since our thoughts are controllable, every feeling is therefore a choice. This I realise is a radical notion for most of us. You probably grew up believing that you cannot control your own emotion; that anger, hurt and fear, as well as love, ecstasy and joy are things that just happen to you, that an individual doesn’t control these things but instead just accept them as occurrences. You have been made to believe that when sorrowful events occur you just naturally feel sorrow and hope that some joyous event will happen soon so that you can feel good again. Truth is with practise, each of us have the power to choose how we will feel in each circumstance. With personal mastery, we can choose to be the happiest, intelligent and most successful of individuals.

An Intelligent Person

An Intelligent Person

Taking charge of yourself begins with putting away some of the very old notions and beliefs that have imprisoned us for as long as we can remember, these beliefs that have somewhat become who we are - for we become and are a product of our consciousness and beliefs. Easier said than done you are thinking.

 

Its unfortunately true that if You are to Take Charge of who you are and your environment – you need to let go of some of the more common beliefs that hinder growth and change, the ones that sound like this for example:

“being intelligence is your ability to solve very complex problems, your ability to read write and compute at certain levels or to solve abstract and complex problems quickly”

 

That is a true myth as this vision of intelligence assumes that the more educated and book worm you are, the more superior you are. This kind of unrealistic and false measure has crippled our society, encouraging a kind of intellectual snobbery that has brought with it demoralising results.

We have come to believe that someone with more merit badges, who is a whiz at some form of scholastic discipline (math, science, physics, a fast reader, or worse still someone loaded with money), is “intelligent”.

The truth here is that mental hospitals are clogged with patients with all the properly lettered credentials – as well as others. A true barometer of intelligence however I believe, is an effective full happy and enjoyable life that is lived each day and yes - each present moment of every day.

If you are happy and can live each moment of each day for everything that is it worth, then you are an intelligent person.

How many of us though, truly embrace each day as a gift?

How many understand that spending too much time wallowing in pain, guilt, worry and stress immobilizes us and our ability to get a positive result – that is destroys our ability to be the best individuals that we were created to become? Think of this, how many of us, have by worrying more than the rest, truly gotten a different result or perspective to the problem we were stressing over?

Problem solving is a useful aide to your happiness. Once you get to the place where you knaow that given your inability to resolve a particular concern, you can however still choose happiness, or at the least refuse to choose unhappiness - THEN YOU ARE AN INTELLIGENT PERSON.

 

Mastery of THE SELF

As we grow and experience this that we call living, we watch time come and go, the hassle and bustle through all the episodes of life that find us, the stress trying to figure out who we are, what we want and need, who likes or dislikes us, the nuances of trying to choose gifts for the relatives friends we remember on special days like birthdays and christmas, the stresses that come with trying to figure out what foods to cook or how to make time for our kids. We awake to the realisation that we have shared the beautiful moments with loved ones, those of yesterday and the ones we love today “at least I hope that we make time to enjoy life and live it in love”, but wake up to the reality that we HAVE NOT MASTERED WHO WE TRULY ARE AS A PERSON (WHO THE SELF IS).

Yes, time will come and go THROUGH each beating heart's drum, we are growing up and growing older and yet – Life itself does not wait for man to awake to Self.

The question therefore arises “how does one ensure that each moment’s breath of his/her life is full of blessings, joyous moments and success? How does one attain a continually happy state?

 

Part 1

Taking charge of who you are

One of the critical keys to an abundant and successful life “not just this moment or the next”, but all your life is the understanding of the notion that you need to take charge of yourself.

Who you are, the choices you make for your life and those around you determine the quality of a life that you are going to have. Until you decide to live your life as best as you the individual choose, until you realise that you owe it to yourself AND NOT OTHERS to find out what it is THAT you love doing, who it is you love sharing your life with “not who society, your mother, father or friends” have chosen for you; only once you get to know who you are and embrace the control you have for your own life, can you truly experience life as its meant to be lived.

Your happiness is in your own hands; your fun can be created by you, gaining more knowledge is your own responsibility. No one has to do anything for you, be any one thing for you, love you a certain way, talk to you a certain way. You personally need to get up and carve the path that you are going to walk. If you master yourself first before expecting any such reactions from people, if you give first, love first, be first that which you want others to be for you, if you master who you are, you will be amazed at how easy it is to receive what you deserve.

It’s equally true that the human spirit can be very fickle. Demands and expectations have channelled so many people into being individuals they do not like being, working in areas they have no passion for. People’s obsession with money; their competitive nature and need to be better than their neighbour, friend, partner or brother have created such an unhealthy imbalance in society, you wonder where we are headed.

You may be wondering why you’re not succeeding in your job, why you are not getting the promotion and your junior colleague is? The answer most likely lies in YOUR

• lack of passion for what you do,
• lack the drive and heart to realise your true potential,
• non-belief in the control and power you have over your own feelings, actions and reactions, AND 
• Ability to make your own choices.

 

 

This is Living ...... continued

“An Introduction”

PART 2

I did say that you were about to have an incredible experience, that you are about to go through the process, the experience of how to live abundantly. I promised that we would each gain knowledge and more importantly, deposit the belief’s into our hearts, the belief that we were all born to succeed.

You will pardon me as we get to know each other, for you will have moments where you will disagree with my point of view, moments where you will have a different opinion and perspective to a particular topic of discussion, moments where you will label me conceited, a fraud, a hypocrite for not always living the truths we will share.

This is welcome, and your point of view can be heard.

Please know  that it is not possible to stop this process now, nor do I want to. I, like all of you, are a human being simply working at being the best that I can be. I am a work in progres and the Master, God our Cretaor hasnt finished with me just yet.

I have a lot to learn from you too, knowing that I can never be truly complete in knowledge, never attain perfection nor have all the answers. Like all of you I face many challenges, cry, hurt and yes, I have many joyous moments as well. Where I’ve grown the most is in knowing that;
- Life is a beautiful experience to be savoured, with all its challenges and heartaches, it wouldn’t be life if it was any different.
- Life is a platform, a stage for us to learn to be the best we can be, grow in humanity, share experiences and touch each other in ways that will ultimately build abundant lives for us all.
- Life is a chance for us to keep making the choices that make us (and only us in our individual capacity) happy. Continuing to make these choicves, only in the knowledge that if you the person are happy first before anyone else; only then can you make the person next to you happy as well. It all starts with you!

 

In these series of topics, which may ultimatelybecome THE BOOK we will explore topics such as what is purpose to Creation, are you a mistake or a masterpiece, do you know who you are, and if you dont, how to take charge of the person dying inside you, breaking free from past mistakes, the uselessness of emotions such as guilt and worry, how to cope with stress, how to build a successful career, putting an end to procrastination “get up and do it now”. We will explore ways to be financially liberated “financial independence”, investment options, taking control of our lives and finances, the wonderful power we each posses. T

 

hese articles will strive to remind us all of how to better balance our lives, teach us how to live fuller, richer and more abundant lives in totality; exploring the balance in emotional intelligence, financial intelligence, building friendships and more importantly the magical power of personal choice.

We will work together to structure a successful life for all.......

THIS IS LIVING .... ARE YOU PARTICIPATING OR A SPECTACTOR?

THE GIFT IS DEPOSITED “An Introduction”

PART 1

 

You are about to have an incredible experience. You are about to go through the process, the experience of LIVING... OF WAKING UP FROM YOUR SLUMBER AND CONSCIOULSY LIVING. Yes I said it.... NOW - AWAKE! 

 

In this series of topics we will explore issues that should help us understand, gain knowledge and more importantly, deposit belief’s into our hearts - beliefs that I trust will enhance our appreciation of the Truth that "we were all born to succeed". We will gradually gain the pieces to this puzzle, the pieces that all the people who live happy lives have at their disposal. You know the neighbour next door that always looks happier than you are, the colleague at work that always seems to get the promotions and the bosses door open to them, the sibling that always seems to bring a smile to your mother’s face (when you both work so hard and yearn so much for her acceptance and love). What do they do differently? What do they know that you don’t?

Over the next few discussions, which I hope will be many; we will build a life together.

 

We will learn the tools that will help us be better individuals, better in the way we deal with our finances, in the way we handle our relations (with our families, friends, bosses and colleagues, even our children). We will together structure how to live a life of abundance. A life filled with beautiful moments, people to share and laugh with, and a life that ultimately we were all created to experience.

Am I therefore the person to show you how to live this life, do I have all the answers? Yes, I know - that is what you may be asking yourself right now. Is she my voice of reason, the answer to my prayers? I hope for most of you, the answer will over time be yes. I hope to inspire change, fulfilment and success in your finances, work and general well being.

I realise my life would probably be so much easier if I kept all this quiet, if I didn’t invade your quiet peaceful moements (I trust that you are inFACT in peace), come into your spaces with the words we will get to share over time. Why? Because in keeping quiet, not one of you would get to disagree with me, critique and judge my words, not one of you would have an opinion about my life, what I am doing wrong or right. Not one of you would purport to know who I am, what my beliefs and experiences have been.

 

Sadly, if I didn’t invade your thoughts, not one of you would have the chance to be touched, to learn something different, to question and query my words. For in all your discomforts and detractions, you will be HAVING A NEW EXPERIENCE. By disagreeing with who I am or what I share with you, you get to know yourself just a little bit better, gaining more conviction in who you are. Even in that negation moment, I will take the comfort in the knowledge you have somehow been touched to think, feel EXPERIENCE And are therefore a lttle more empowered. 

Do understand that the heart and energy to share with you simply was a gift that happened to me. I didn’t go out looking, it literally happened to me. Like most things that are meant to be, you wake up one day and just know this is what you should be doing with your life “the purpose for your being”.

I have been blessed in my life, and as much have had challenges like we all do. I have grown to realise there are many of us that still need help, guidance, someone to listen, care - a source that will help us know we can be the best beings we were created to be. The beauty in having a gift deposited in your heart, is the understanding that someone out there (and it will not be all of you), will find harmony in these words, will gain strength and learn to love their lives even just a little more than they do today. If I get to inspire even just one of you, then I will also grow as a person.

 

............. IT IS WELL...